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shayfo
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SRQ;34888 wrote: I rarely put myself in a social situation which I cannot control or don’t feel comfortable. I know how awful I would feel physically if I suddenly snarfed pizza, swilled beer or downed a pint of ice cream. I tell people I have food issues and that I have a limited diet. Most people are amazed that I have the fortitude to remain on such a restrictive diet. I used to tell people, ‘Oh, you could do it.’ But, now, after so many months have passed I’ve realized, no they couldn’t. So, now I say, ‘Not many can do this.’ I’m fortunate that (for the most part) I don’t mind eating the same foods over and over again. And, I’m never concerned about what others think of me if I’m not eating or drinking with them.

I think different personality types deal with this differently, and there are other factors that seem to make it easier or more difficult for some people to feel okay about declining foods or being around foods they’re not eating. A friend of mine who did a week of the cleanse and almost a week of the diet with me was SO TORTURED about the idea of not eating the same foods as her family or friends when they asked her to eat with them. But, she’s an extrovert, largely emotionally-driven, and an omnivore, and she has a sort of “go along to get along” attitude about most social situations (unless there’s really something to be opposed to: she’s not a pushover, just harmonious). On the other hand, I’m an introvert, largely logic-driven, and I already had food restrictions (vegan, and allergic to gluten), and I think those things make it easier for me to stick with it, even in social situations. I think introverts tend to perceive less conflict in “doing their own thing” in a group than extroverts do, and I’ve been declining food for over a decade for one reason or another. So, it doesn’t stress me out as much to be in a situation where I’m eating my little separate meal, or where I’m just declining an invitation, as I think it did for my friend. The introversion/extroversion difference definitely makes it easier for me to be okay with staying home and eating by myself all the time. She was always coming over to cook with me because she didn’t want to do it alone.

But it’s not an easy thing, I think regardless of who you are. It definitely helps to have a long-term view of things! The way out is through.