- July 29, 2013 at 8:46 am #108347
I just walked up the street and back 30min total to get some avocado,rutabaga & exercise. My boyfriend came with me. I’m finding walking a stuggle, hard to carry the 2 avocados and rutabaga in my bag, then theres my boyfriend telling me to hurry up as he walks at a considerably fast pace in front of me. Wish he could understand, i don’t want sympathy as such i just want him to know why im slower and that im doing my best or better yet walk beside me.
I asked him how would he treat me if i had cancer and he replyed along the lines of that being a legitamate reason.
Its sucks in moments like these, i felt better when i was eating sugar,smoking and drinking…..
BouncyJuly 30, 2013 at 3:32 pm #108437
shayfoMemberTopics: 18Replies: 668
Man, I totally understand. The first couple of months are really hard. I had a lot of friends saying things like, “Oh, you quit sugar? S do you feel awesome now?” And I’d have to sort of just be like “No…no. I don’t. At all,” and then still defend my decision. It sucks, but it eventually gets better. Hang in there!July 30, 2013 at 3:43 pm #108438
🙂 thanks for the replyJuly 30, 2013 at 4:43 pm #108444
SueSullivanMemberTopics: 18Replies: 108
The breathlessness and lack of energy does suck, but it sounds like the boyfriend’s lack of empathy is the bigger disheartening event.
Some boyfriends are more empathetic than others. Some boyfriends have other positive qualities that balance out a less-than-satisfactory ability to empathize. It’s good to notice what matters to you and how important it is relative to other qualities. Empathetic abilities can grow with age (but no guarantees.)
As the saying goes, “it’s none of my business what other people think of me.” It’s much easier to apply this to the store clerk who is dismissive of you or the co-worker gossiping about you than your boyfriend, husband, or parents but it really is just as true.
It’s our job to be super empathetic and supportive of ourselves, and not anyone else’s. It’s an awesome bonus if those around us can give us that as well, but not required. If you notice yourself wanting someone else to understand and be supportive of yourself, the best thing you can do is be very gentle and supportive of yourself and give them the space to be who they are, right now.
for what it’s worth,
p.s. sorry you’re not feeling better right now. you will!July 31, 2013 at 9:13 am #108475
Some good points there Sue, thanks for replyingAugust 1, 2013 at 9:08 am #108505
HeatherJMemberTopics: 24Replies: 34
I hope you are feeling better today. It is so easy to forget how crappy you felt before-the aches and pains, the bloating-whatever your issues were. Try to remember your gains. LIke for me, I have been slowly gaining weight, while eating absolutely nothing, over the past few years. So far, I have lost 18 pounds. Putting on pants that used to not fit is a moment of clarity for me; I know I am regaining my health because my body is returning to normal. Whatever your gains are, let those be the light that guide you.
With regard to your boyfriend, I have heard this a couple of times lately, “When people tell you who they are, believe them.”
But good for you for not giving in! Your commitment to your health is what will get you through this.
I hope you are allowing yourself down-time…for example, at 8:30, I clock-out. I’m in bed watching a movie or reading a book. Knowing that I have this time at the end of the day makes the moments of struggle easier to get through.
All of that said, I don’t know what lengths I would go to for one (big) piece of chocolate cake that wouldn’t do me in! LOL!!!August 1, 2013 at 6:23 pm #108521
subtlesoulMemberTopics: 1Replies: 3
I had been struggling for 1.5 years before i realised it might be candida. but big chenge in last couple of weeks.
I had a very bad case where it had spread through and i was having tingling in my ears super stiff neck, shoulder, joint pains abdominal pain bloating etc.
These are some of the things that worked for me. (Please understand these things may vary with people so if it does not work for yuo discontinue. i tried lot of things before i set myself on these things below)
Within 2 weeks i have already loosened my diat and i started Gymming gain.
General things (everyone talkes about these):
1) Cut out on breads and anything with yeast in it. Cooked Quinoa with yoghurt salt and spices worked for me.
2) Yoghurt(low sugar) – make sure it contains lot of probiotics (this willyou dont lose much energy)
3) Deep breathing(preferaby alone, concentrating on the breath, at least half hour)
*Try to eat very less at night/before you go to sleep
*Once a week or once in two weeks try to reduce your food intake (while keeping your activities down for the day)
5) Streachig and excercises
6) Lots of water (preferably warm)
Oil of oregano and raw garlic clove intake helped a bit(in conjunction with probiotic(yoghurt in my case)
But what helped most was when i took the oil of oregano and applied it generously on my skin(especially neck back and abdomen). I had mild burning sensation in exact spots of pain for 15 minutes and then magically the pain dissapeared.
Within 2 weeks i have already loosened my diat and i started Gymming gain.
This again is a personal opinion. But conserving sexual energy would be good too.
Yeast flourishes in a estrogenic environment. So keeping estrogen levels in check and yuo will see you feel better.
MOST IMPORTANT. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. Watch out for responses and adapt your lifestyle accordingly
I know this period sucks.. but HANG IN THERE.. once you are out of this yuo will really learn to appriciate the gift of health.
lots of smiles and love to all 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
God bless all!August 2, 2013 at 10:40 am #108539
HeatherJ ,subtlesoul i have really enjoyed reading your replys thanks for them. 🙂August 12, 2013 at 12:47 pm #108977
lita11MemberTopics: 0Replies: 8
really hard working you are doing… It is great… You should continue this.August 16, 2013 at 12:04 am #109180
myword12345MemberTopics: 18Replies: 55
I started this 8 days ago.I have been feeling a bit crazy cant think at all no energy ext. I am trying to walk like 10 min, hurts. But more then anything I understand the no one understands part. Everyone is like you have been sick forever.Like they have gave up on me. Me doing this diet they just think I am even more nuts. I feel like I cant think so dont know if I am over reacting. I have told people if you cant be supportive just go away.I dont want anything to stand in the way I am on a mission.I can not handle all the negative comments. I just try to look at the good things like my sinuses have got so much better!!!!! To me this is a life change all the way around.August 16, 2013 at 4:41 am #109192
kevlabMemberTopics: 1Replies: 3
myword12345;47701 wrote: I started this 8 days ago.I have been feeling a bit crazy cant think at all no energy ext. I am trying to walk like 10 min, hurts. But more then anything I understand the no one understands part. Everyone is like you have been sick forever.Like they have gave up on me. Me doing this diet they just think I am even more nuts. I feel like I cant think so dont know if I am over reacting. I have told people if you cant be supportive just go away.I dont want anything to stand in the way I am on a mission.I can not handle all the negative comments. I just try to look at the good things like my sinuses have got so much better!!!!! To me this is a life change all the way around.
I totally understand, and I’ve been through a lot of what you’re saying. You’re not crazy and you’re doing this because you know your body is telling you that it’s the right choice. Other people don’t understand around you but I’m going through the same thing so we understand each other.
Don’t give up!
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