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Vegan Catlady;56042 wrote: The way we handle stress makes and breaks us.
This is soooo true! I learned that through experience. That is: the hard way. But it was a very useful lesson that provided me lots of insight.
Vegan Catlady;56042 wrote: I dont know that you can remove stress, as sometimes you are in a situation you dont have choices in, but changing the way we react to it changes our body-chemistry and gives the adrenals a chance to heal.
There are indeed two things: removing stress that can be removed, and changing your reaction to the remaining stress that cannot be removed.
Just to give you some examples of removing stress:
Long ago, I thought it was imperative to be on the dance floor all night long when I went to a party. Now I do like dancing, but not always, and certainly not all night long. So I was forcing myself to do things I didn’t really feel like, because I thought I wouldn’t be accepted by my friends if I didn’t.
It was only after I decided to stand up for myself, and not do things because my friends expected me to, that I spent only ten minutes on the dance floor, then an hour or so just talking with my friends, then fifteen minutes on the dance floor, and so on. Or I went to a party and didn’t dance at all, because I didn’t feel like dancing that night.
I discovered that my friends didn’t blame me at all, they still respected me – in fact, they respected me even more than before, because I voiced my opinion (without brutalizing them, of course) and I acted like it. I simply stood up for myself without doing anyone any harm. That earned me quite some respect, and more importantly: it removed a lot of stress.
Another example is being forced to perform tasks that stressed me. Just by talking about the fact that I really really didn’t like such tasks, and that I’d rather do some other task, got someone reacting like “hey, I really like doing the things that you disgust, and I hear you telling that you like doing exactly those things that I disgust – so how about an exchange of tasks?”.
So he took over from me those tasks that gave me stress, and I took over from him those tasks that gave him stress. In the end, all tasks were still performed, but better, faster, and most importantly: by two happy, unstressed persons, rather than by two unhappy, stressed persons.
These were just two examples. Of course, such solutions aren’t always possible – but reducing stress is so important that it certainly is worthwhile looking for such possibilities. If you’re only aware of this method, you’ll find ways more often than you expect!