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Basically I have to change.
Not really. Only your reaction to certain assaults has to change. It’s a lesson that also applies to the real world: what happens to you does not only depend on the things that are happening. It also depends on your reaction to the things that are happening.
You cannot always influence what happens around you. Can [h]can influence how you react to those things.[/h]
Vegan Catlady;56657 wrote: I can react to the passive aggressive following in the forum, or I can take a breather- see the value in my participation- and continue to offer info.
I do not know of any law that requires me to react to a hostile post within a short timeframe. [h]Therefore, when I encounter hostility, I often shut down the computer, do other things that are much more pleasant and much more rewarding, and I reply to the hostile post only three or four days later, sometimes even two weeks later.[/h]
You can see this in various places on this forum. Sometimes I reply within minutes, sometimes I take days or weeks to reply. [h]The latter gives me time to not be upset, and usually my response will be much better. It will be more thought over, it will be more calm, and it will be more polite – which, in such cases, provides a lot of strength.[/h]
I still have a significant amount of polishing to do, as I can still hear my words feel angry.
The only positive way to handle it is by coming back when Im in a better place,like you said.
I re-read my latest post and I hear sarcasm where I didnt intend it (except for the Pinky and The Brain part,lol).
Caps are not my friend, they point out where I feel I am not being heard.
You make a lot of sense.
Im going to have a cup of tea and digest it all.